Are you worried about being a creepy guy or creeping girls out? If you are, then stop it! The more you worry about being creepy, the worse you will get with women. When you are worried about this, you will stop yourself from leaning into your comfort zone and you will not grow. In order to improve, you must push your comfort zone. When you are worried about being creepy or calibrating, you stifle yourself from taking action and you just get more in your head.
Lets take a worst case scenario. When you go balls to the wall and decide to not give a fuck about being creepy, you might creep some women out but who cares? It doesn't mean anything about you and at least you are learning your limits, what works and what doesn't. I took some workshops way back in the day that really focused on calibration, being socially acceptable and avoiding creeping girls out. It made me way worse because I stopped taking risks. When you stop taking risks, you stop growing. So hopefully I have beaten you over the head with this by now but just in case, STOP worrying about how you look, and STOP worrying about creeping girls out. In fact I would even recommend going out to intentionally be awkward and creep people out just to get over your embarrassment. It can be really fun, especially if you have a friend to support you who is fun. I have a buddy named Ben who loves to just go out and say/do funny shit. He doesn't care what people think of him and he always has fun, and he gets tons of women. What might creep one girl out, might make another extremely hot for you. Just go for it.
Sunday, December 14, 2008
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Great post Robbo. It is all mindset and that is the biggest way for us to fail at meeting new and exciting women.
One thing I did learn over time with approaching women was to not lurk around in the early days I would just try and talk myself into it and would hang around so by the time I got in their and approached her, she had already noticed me lurking around and that would work against me. Now I just go in their and talk to them, I find just going in there with the mindset of just having a conversation with a woman not going in their to pick them up was far more successful for me in meeting and dating many women.
Take Care.
TC
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